5 miles or 1500 miles, distance is but a number. The way you feel about someone should not change just because you do not see them or talk to them every waking moment of every day. This past week, I have had the opportunity to talk to family who lives across the country and a close friend from high school who lives in the middle of the country. They may live far away but that doesn't make me miss them any less. If anything, it makes me miss them more, because I know when I do see them, its precious time I have to spend.
I have watched people doubt their relationships with their loved ones or even their friends, because of distance. They believe that just because they left home, it changes everything and everyone. Where we come from will always be a part of us, and for me personally, a part of me will always be there. But it's not so much about the place that makes coming home special, its about the people that are there, the memories we've made and the experiences we have had.
As one person, I cannot give advice on how to make a long distance relationship work. What I do know, is I have experienced it before. I have two very good friends that live opposite ways of me each above 15 hours long. I have family that covers every region of the United States, who I only see every couple of years. Its about staying in touch and letting them know how much you care, which makes it work.
Family is a little different than friends. Family, most of the time is unwritten love. Friends on the other hand can be more complicated, and more stressful. When we separate, we meet new people, make new friends, create new memories and partake on new experiences. That doesn't mean the people split away from us, mean anything different. If a friendship is as strong as you believe it be, then it should never change. You just need to realize that your never going to be replaced. There will always be a spot for you. Don't be afraid that you will grow apart or separate. Go through life having fun and being you, finding who you really are as a person.
Life is full of challenges and hard ships. But it's how we face them that makes us who we are. Everything happens for a reason and we become stronger because of it. People enter and leave our lives sometime for the better and some for the worse. But a path is set for us and it's up to us to walk cautiously or take off running.
- Kyle Bell