I know we are still in the month of January but all over the town, stores are starting to put up their Valentines Day items and decorations. Couples are starting to think of what gift to give their loved one. Singles are thinking about what lucky person can they spend their day with. Honestly, I think love and dating today is so complicated that Valentine's Day has lost its meaning.
Its a day where you are supposed to share how much you love someone with the person you care most about. But in this world, it is just another day where someone will hook up with someone else, where an Instagram post will be put on social media to flaunt, and some body else will end up in tears. Sound familiar? I am tired of this notion and hope everyone takes a second to really evaluate what relationships and love truly means to them.
Last night I sat in my room doing homework and watching TV with one of my good friends. Somehow we started talking about girls, and he made a comment that should be engraved onto a stone.
"Since when is being a nice guy, a bad thing?"
I could not agree more with such a simple quote. When did love become impractical? If you walk up to a girl and ask her to describe the perfect guy usually it sounds like this "I want someone who is good looking, will make me laugh, cares about me, wants to be with me, enjoys my family and friends and someone to be my best friend."
This sounds great, right? I mean, it makes sense so I still can not understand the reason why so many girls date guys who constantly make them cry, and hurt them, or go back to a a bad situation they have been in before. The same can be said about guys. So how about you open your eyes and look around you, there is probably some guy or girl who happens to be your friend, waiting to love you and waiting fora chance to show you. Oh but wait there's that key word, friend.
Have you ever heard of this thing called the "friend-zone". If you haven't let me explain it for you. It is this imaginary place where a guy or girl will put a friend in, if they are "to good of friends".
Maybe its me, and maybe I am crazy, but I say destroy this type of mentality. I was raised in a home where my parents are best friends. There is no one in the world they would rather be with. And I know not everyone is lucky enough to have grown up with the same scenario, but isn't this what everyone is searching for? Their "best friend" to love and grow old with?
I know the line that every person uses is "it will ruin our friendship". That is just an excuse. If you two really are as good of friends as you say you are, then it won't matter if it doesn't work out or not. You both should be mature enough to continue the friendship no matter what.
I'm not going to change who I am and what I believe in. Neither should any of you. If someone can't see what is right in front of them, then they don't deserve it. They will just have to learn the hard way that the next time they come back crying, there wont be anyone there to listen.
So for those of you who are old school, and who were raised to be that nice guy or that nice girl, don't give up. There is somebody out there who will finally realize how special you really are.
- Kyle Bell