Growing up a man, we are taught to show little emotion. We are taught to be this man that can move from person to person, no strings attached, no emotional response. The truth is, most of us don't feel that way. Most guys want to find the one girl who makes life interesting and someone they are comfortable around at all times. The problem is that dating is so messed up these days, that by informally dating someone is as if you are asking for a 5 year commitment. What happened to dating somebody to get to know them, and seeing where it goes from there? Dating is not a thing anymore. Those people are looked at as players. The bad guys. So people today are looking for the one night stand, or the friend with benefits. The reasoning behind this; vulnerability. People are to afraid to show themselves and their true feelings to their significant other. It has become easier to hide behind a mask and not get to involved, just to avoid getting hurt again.
Today I am speaking out for the nice guy. The guy that continues to put himself out there, but always seems to lose. Why? Because he was being himself. The nice guy is exactly the type of person every girl describes to want in a partner. He gives himself to her, allows her to trust him, and listens to her every word. He does the right things. He is successful in life and works hard to make sure his life is in order, but always goes out of his way to make sure she is happy too.
In the world we live in today, playing "hard to get" is the ideal game, and "netflix and chill" has become the go to. Or telling people we're not "really" dating, we're just a thing. What does that even mean? Left and right people like instagram pictures and twitter updates of romantic quotes or relationship goals. So which one is it? Do you want a real relationship or not? If it's a one night stand you're looking for, leave the good guys alone, because there are not many left.
I am so sick of hearing that girls want the guy who is a challenge, or someone that they can fix. Last time I checked, the point of a relationship was not to end up in tears after every conversation or to be with the guy that hurts you over and over again. I thought a relationship was supposed to be with someone who you care about, have fun with and treats you with the upmost respect. I could be wrong, but that is the way I was raised. So next time you want to move the nice guy aside because the bad boy has a little bit of charm to him, just remember how it felt last time he left you crying and who you called to make it all better. Eventually the nice guy won't be there anymore to pick you. What are you going to do then?
Let me tell you some quick advice. Everyone has a history, some we are not all proud of, even the nice guy. So don't hold that against him because you know that he doesn't hold your past against you. So next time you want push aside the nice guy for the more interesting bad boy, don't be surprised when you turn around, and the nice guy is not standing there anymore. He only can wait for so long. And when he is no longer there when you want him, you will only have yourself to blame. Its a tough reality but it's the truth.